What’s something most people don’t understand?
Is a job
I myself as I became a mom in my late 30s thought being a stay at home mom would be Cake. As a young girl I thought of getting married, and having a child and being able to be a stay at home mom. So I could be present every single moment of there early years. To volunteer at their school and walk to and from school even if I could drive. Just to be able to hold there little hand and talk along the way. It all seem so easy. Key word seemed.
Fast forward to being a mom
First off I went back to work when my baby boy was 7months old. I thought O ya I could still work and do this. There’s not reason for me to be home all day. O geez was I wrong. lol. First off the sleeping was an issue. My son was in a schedule that was established early on and he was use to that. Woke up early 4:30 am and n slept every four hours. So I had to start getting him to stay up longer in the evening so he could sleep through the night especially as he got older, bc I was exhausted at work. Grant it his dad helped a lot with this, but we both were tired. Funny how one little tiny person can have so much control over your life. lol ya funny now it wasn’t then.
I pushed through it
I continued to work, well up until management changed. Initially I felt I had support from my employer who had empathy for my situation. My child was born with different abilities so a lot more care was involved.
Once new management told me straight out about my family dynamics effecting any promotions and how would be best to go permanent part-time due to my circumstances I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I just looked at her and asked are you serious? Her response was yes how could I ever give you a promotion knowing your priority is your son. I remember my stomach starting to hurt and I wanted to cry so bad because I couldn’t believe what she said to me. I asked to leave her office.
Now 11 years later I’m a Stay at home mom.
It’s the hardest job I’ve ever done. The most rewarding by far, but definitely the hardest job. Going to work and coming home was hard but being full time stay at home mom is totally different. There is no breaks, no paid vacations, no lunch with co-workers or that lunch time walk to get grounded and distress, or nap. I don’t have the stress or tension of that evil manager lol anymore so that in itself is a major plus. Grant it she was never married or didn’t have any children so I don’t feel I. My opinion she could ever really have any understanding or empathy for motherhood. Idk that’s just my opinion. It’s not a fact I’m sure but it’s how I feel about her.
Thanks for reading, sorry so long !
